What is co-dependency?

Codependency is a pattern of behavior in which your self-worth and identity is dependent on the approval of someone else. This pattern of giving up your own needs and identity ultimately leads to burnout, exhaustion, not feeling like you yourself and dissatisfaction. Anyone can be codependent. This is a pretty common experience for many people. If you resonate with this we want you to know that change is possible and that we can help.


How therapy helps with co-dependency

Since Co-dependency is a relational (in relationship) experience and pattern it can be challenging to change on your own. Often, these are behaviors that stem from early childhood relationships, mostly in our family. As a result this patterning is reinforced and repeated in other relationships.
Therapy can help you understand this behavior and foster self-compassion. It can also help you improve your relationship with your own self care. You can learn to participate in relationships and depended on others without sacrificing your own needs and wants. The basic Idea is to keep bringing you back to yourself, focusing on what you want and what you need while being able to be in relationship. ​

Building a loving relationship with yourself is the main component. By doing so you will also to have healthier relationships with other people around you.

Symptoms of co-dependency:

  • Low self-esteem
  • Poor or rigid boundaries
  • People pleasing
  • Reactivity
  • Care taking
  • Need to control
  • Dysfunctional communication
  • Obsession
  • Denial of personal problems
  • Problems with intimacy
  • Perfectionism and fear of failure
  • Sensitivity to criticism
  • Excessive focus on the needs of others
  • Failure to meet personal needs

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Traits of a healthy relationship:

  • Equality
  • Trust
  • Respect
  • Reciprocity
  • Secure attachment
  • Healthy boundaries
  • Clear communication
  • Freedom