Despite what has happened in the past or might still be occurring, you are not alone. With good support it is possible to get to a better place.
Abuse shows up in different ways: emotionally, physically, sexually.
When does abuse happen
It often occurs in relationships where there are differences in power (such as with a parent, sibling, boss, friend or partner). Abuse is widespread and the impacts of experiencing abuse are varied.
Symptoms of abuse
feeling easily overwhelmed
have trouble learning, concentrating, remembering and finishing things
under or over sleeping
problems with decision-making
hard to move, think or talk
not feeling safe to connect, play and rest
shame or embarrassment that prevents you from asking for help
In order to manage our overwhelm we often split or compartmentalize ourselves into parts and then hide those part from ourselves and everyone else. We learn to forget about these pieces and then compensate and perhaps pretend everything is fine.
We react in this way in order to protect ourselves. These responses are intelligent and help us survive, but we often begin to outgrow them. This is when we find ourselves looking for some kind of change or way to do things differently but not knowing how.