Approaches we use:
Somatic Experiencing® (SE)
Somatic Experiencing® is a body-awareness approach to trauma therapy being taught throughout the world. It is the result of over forty years of observation, research, and development by Dr. Peter Levine, based upon the realization that human beings have an innate ability to overcome the effects of trauma and anxiety.
We can reclaim our ability to handle the demands of life by learning to connect to the innate balance that’s been overridden.
In Somatic Experiencing working slowly is the fastest way in order not to re-traumatize oneself. As we move towards balance, we find we sleep better, breathe deeper, and have more desire and less fear of engaging with the world. It is a co-operative and manageable process.
Mindfulness is achieved when we bring our awareness and focus to the present moment. It is the practice of returning over and over again to what is happening in the here-and-now. Mindfulness is paying attention to what is happening internally and externally ‘on purpose’. It is key to do this with curiosity and without judgment.
Mindfulness benefits our physical, emotional and spiritual well being. In our busy world, it’s quite easy to miss how we are feeling and what we are doing moment to moment. The cultivation of mindfulness makes it easier to recognize and enjoy what is satisfying and pleasurable in life. It also helps us withstand the challenging events and times.
Mindfulness as a therapeutic technique helps people accept their experience and gain perspective. This is essential for people who experience symptoms of anxiety, depression and trauma symptoms and couples’ conflicts since it replaces maladaptive tendencies with healthier coping skills. When it comes to anxiety, mindfulness takes us out of worrying about some past event or the future.
Emotionally Focus Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence based approach to couples therapy that helps couples increase curiosity and safety, by deepening their understanding of themselves and their partner. This approach helps reduce defensiveness and encourages empathy, security and intimacy.
As a result of decades of studies and research, EFT has been found to offer an effective outlook of the emotional bond between couples. It also clarifies the core questions about our relationship: “ Am I safe in this relationship? Can i really be myself and trust my love? Am I important to my partner? Does my partner have my back?
These questions often stand at the root of what couples fight about: the emotional connection and a sense of safety in their relationship.
When couples are not sure how to answer these questions, it can cause them to feel alone, anxious, scared and will end up leading them to fight or withdraw.
EFT helps partners learn to be more open and trusting with each other. In addition it teaches couples how to reach out to one another more effectively in moments of need or distress.