Abuse

Despite what has happened in the past or might still be occurring, you are not alone. With good support it is possible to get to a better place.
Abuse shows up in different ways: emotionally, physically, sexually.

When does abuse happen

It often occurs in relationships where there are differences in power (such as with a parent, sibling, boss, friend or partner). Abuse is widespread and the impacts of experiencing abuse are varied.

Symptoms of abuse

feeling easily overwhelmed
have trouble learning, concentrating, remembering and finishing things
hypervigilance
under or over sleeping
problems with decision-making
emotional shutdown
hard to move, think or talk
not feeling safe to connect, play and rest
shame or embarrassment that prevents you from asking for help

In order to manage our overwhelm we often split or compartmentalize ourselves into parts and then hide those part from ourselves and everyone else. We learn to forget about these pieces and then compensate and perhaps pretend everything is fine.

We react in this way in order to protect ourselves. These responses are intelligent and help us survive, but we often begin to outgrow them. This is when we find ourselves looking for some kind of change or way to do things differently but not knowing how.

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Did you know…

that 1 out of 3 women will experience some form of sexual abuse. In 80% of those cases, she will know the person.
1 out of every 6 men will experience some form of sexual abuse before the age of 12, also by someone they know.